So I can find it again

[dreaminghope]

Because I just spent 10 minutes re-tracing my steps through various journals to find this link to find this word and definition, I'll post it here where I can find it again:

http://www.libidomag.com/nakedbrunch/polyamory.html

"There is a new term for the opposite of jealousy. Compersion is the feeling of joy that comes from knowing that the one you love is well loved by someone else."

Comments

[cinnamonsqueak.livejournal.com]

~cries~

love him for me.

thank you

[darianhawke.livejournal.com]

but I need you

Compersion

[polypagangirl.livejournal.com]

Very long story - VERY short version:

Way back when, I found a girlfriend for my husband (a friend of ours) - they had lots of fun. That first week was wonderful. The three of us got together once at the end of their first week together and did a little Chinese tea ceremony together . . . i felt such compersion. I was soooo happy for him. I just KNEW it would feel this way. :)

But unfortunately, they didn't truly comprehend that i was actually willing to share my husband for the rest of my life, and she decided she wanted him for herself. Quick to the end . . . he dumped me for her.

Anyway - the reason for this post - was just to say that, if only for just a short while, i felt compersion, and it is such a wonderful feeling. I look forward to having the opportunity to feel it again. (I could go into why i'm not at that place right now - it's NOT because of that last fiasco - but that's a whole n'uther post) :)

Re: Compersion

[polypagangirl.livejournal.com]

Cool. Isn't it marvelous? :)

I hadn't even heard of polyamoury, let alone a word for what i was feeling at that time.

Re: Compersion

[dreamhope.livejournal.com]

It is a wonderful feeling. When I first came across the term "compersion", I was sort of relieved, because the fact that there was a word for it meant I wasn't the only one who had felt it.

Thank you for sharing your story!