In my head too much
May. 25th, 2005 09:07 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
When I was a boy, I scared the pants off of my mom,
Climbed what I could climb upon
And I don't know how I survived,
I guess I knew the tricks that all boys knew.
And you can walk me home, but I was a boy, too.
(Dar Williams, When I Was A Boy)
I never was a tomboy. I've always been a girly-girl: delicate, tidy, scared of getting hurt, not wanting to be dirty.
I didn't climb trees. I didn't get muddy or grass-stained, or catch bugs, or whatever it is boys do. I don't even know what boys do.
I feel like maybe I missed out.
When I was born, they looked at me and said
what a good boy, what a smart boy, what a strong boy.
And when you were born, they looked at you and said,
what a good girl, what a what a smart girl, what a pretty girl.
(Barenaked Ladies, What a Good Boy)
I've never been strong.
It's a good thing I was born a girl, as this kind of weakness is still OK in the "weaker sex", but would mean humiliation for a boy.
So we're sitting at a bar in Guadalajara
In walks a guy with a faraway look in his eyes
He says, "I got a powerful horse outside
Climb on the back, I'll take you for a ride
I know a little place
We can get there 'fore the break of day"
I said "In these shoes?
No way Jose"
I said "Honey, let's stay right here."
(Bette Midler, In These Shoes)
Sometimes I feel the feminine bits and pieces (high heels, bras, short skirts) as fun and sexy.
Other times they seem to be too literally the "trappings" of femininity.
Girly-girls don't have the kind of adventures where they jump on the back of a horse and ride off into the wilds.
And he says, "Oh no, no, can't you see
When I was a girl, my mom and I we always talked
And I picked flowers everywhere that I walked.
And I could always cry, now even when I'm alone I seldom do
And I have lost some kindness
But I was a girl too.
And you were just like me, and I was just like you.
(Dar Williams, When I Was A Boy)
I wish I had a past where boys and girls seemed the same.
I think I'm going to start weight training this fall.
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Date: 2005-05-26 06:27 pm (UTC)She did play with a lot of boys, and I think she maintained male friends through to grade 1 or 2, when we moved. I wonder if she would have drifted away from them, as in your experience, if we had stayed?
I always had female friends, often even more girly then me (I only played Barbie when my friends wanted to). I don't think I really made any close male friends until high school, in fact.